Hubby cheated on me
I've been married for five years now and I'm a mother of one. I'm very disappointed and upset with my husband. He has not been honest with me. All these years, I've trusted him but he has been lying to me. I feel that I've been betrayed by him.
Both incidents involve women. First, he says he is out with friends when he was actually with another woman. He was caught red-handed by one of my girlfriends.
In the second incident, his woman friend paged for him and he lies to me it is the wrong number. Then he secretly calls her back.
We had a big fight when I confronted him. But of course he denies everything. I've had enough of his lies that I don't believe him anymore. He says that he loves me but I do not know how I feel anymore. To love him and accept his lies or leave him for good?
Desperate
You need to understand, we men LIKE sex, unlike women, and tbf we are easily seduced. A married woman doesn't have sex with her husband, but we remain constantly on the lookout for young attractive women, it's in our biology, it's beyond our rational mind. If a man goes out to have a distraction, it is not something we would do to spite our partners, but just to alleviate an inner drive that is present all the time, every day as we go out on the street. Eventuay we cede to this constant pressure, while women remain blissfuy unaware that there exists any sex drive whatsoever.
Think of how much it bothered you that your husband would try to have sex with you every now and then, and how an escapade could free you from the need to satisfy his drive.
Stop giving so much weight to something as trivial as sex.
Wow.
DRUM AND BASS FOR A FUNKED UP PLACE
>>2
True but unfortunate facts. The only male strategy to avoid this eventual failure is to literally never be in the same space as women without other men present. This not only prevented married males from fucking around, but also guaranteed that no accusations of fucking around could credibly be launched against either men or women. Western civilization used to understand this fact as trivially true.
>>5
My own strategy has been to be completely unattractive to women and a gigantic sperg. I mean it I clam up when I'm anywhere near a woman. Works wonders.
>>6
"Who's your favorite WWII general? Mine is the Desert Fox, Erwin Rommel. Would you like to discuss the relative advantages of the T-34?"
>>7
Tbf I'm more of a Patton fan.
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>>8
Old Blood and Guts is actually my favorite, but Rommel is definitely the spergiest answer.
There is no amount of punishment that can quench what is satisfied by forgiveness.
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Relationship advice for us.
COUNSELLOR SAYS
It hurts when you feel your trust has been betrayed.
It is understandable that you find it difficult to continue to trust him.
You do not need to resign yourself in accepting his lies and neither do you need to make a decision to leave him at this stage.
For the sake of the marriage and your young child, continue to hold out in the marriage.
Get help for yourself first before trying to do anything else for the marriage. It is important that you are receive counselling for yourself. This will help you cope better.
Talk to your husband.
You may want to try to understand why he has done this and how he feels about his action.
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