what helps me is being grateful for all the blessings, from the amazing wonder of life, to consciously enjoying my food. Sun shine, not having cancer, not being sick. Just really being mindfully aware of the good and life, and not just being appreciative, but happy about what amazing things that have been afforded to me by, if not the hand of God that feeds all the little wild critters, then the forward impetus of the universe's wild and crazy unentropic goo. I thank whatever is appropriate for me and what good there is every morning when I wake up. I also try to temper a heart of mourning with joy, just for the heck of it.