I am quite sure that your perfectly genuine and serious but it's really self deception. You don't talk to or look at random women and "feel something". Sure certain parts of society try to make it look like this would/should be the norm when it's really just a stupid game. The real "feel something" part starts when share something personal. Sure there is this chemistry thing but that's probably easy to overlook if the interaction part is lost on you.
Well meaning recommendation: Practice your social skills. Not with a lot of expectations for things to suddenly change but slow and steadily learn to engage in interaction. Your chances to meet someone you actually click with might be slim (which actually isn't reflecting all that badly on you) but if you don't train your interaction they'll be next to none. Besides even if the next to none chance still works out, because the stars align right, or whatever causes implausible things to happen, you'll almost certainly kill it by being completely overwhelmed.
I figure your still (somewhat) young and your possibilities for positive change will never be better than now. If everything fails you still have a ton of time to become a jaded asshole but you'll never be able to turn back time and in life there often are no "second chances". It might be this one completely random event where you either succeed or get stuck in failure mode. One simply can't save-reload reality.